Wednesday, January 19, 2011

A Big Thank You

Thank you to everyone who took the time to look at the photos I posted here of my mother and a really big thank you for the beautiful comments, both here and those sent to me personally.  It all means very much, not only to myself, but to those without a blog that loved my mother, and they know who they are.

My mother was very private, but also very social and she would have enjoyed the community of supporters I've been lucky enough to join.  She was a great friend who wouldn't hesitate to share her story with others if it helped ease their worries.  It saddens me to think she missed an opportunity simply because the era's protocol kept breast cancer in the shadows. She ended up carrying much of her burden alone.  To be fair, my father was her staunch ally, but as we who choose to be in the breast cancer blog world know, it's not the same.  It's not enough.

It's been nearly eleven years since she died, but every now and then, it feels like yesterday and I find myself suddenly falling into the void she left behind. Knowing the comments left here exist, will no doubt help pull me up.

I'm happy you were able to see her as we remember.  She'd like that.





6 comments:

  1. One of my mom's biggest fears before she died was that my children would only remember her being sick. She wanted them to remember her being healthy and playing with them. That last sentence you wrote helped me to remember my mom's wishes. I'm glad you joined the blog world! :)

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  2. I'm a few days behind (as usual), but just read your post from the 18th. Beautiful.
    (You look so much like your mother!)

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  3. Ginny, you know what gets me now? Is just how many of us have moms that died from breast cancer. Until I started blogging, I only knew my cousin and myself in that situation. It's sad and it really has to stop. Thank you for sharing your thoughts.

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  4. Hey, Deb! Thanks for continuing to read and for your comment. So appreciate it!

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  5. Hi Stacey, Thank you for sharing the photos of your mom. They are beautiful. I visited my dad this week and we looked at old slides of my mom. It was really sad for me, but at the same time I loved seeing her up on the screen. I love your comment about how your dad was your mom's staunchest ally, but even that wasn't enough. We know what that means. I am so thankful this online community exists for us today, in that we are lucky. My mom would be happy for me (for all of us really) about that. Your observation about so many of our moms dying from breast cancer is sad, and I agree needs to stop!

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  6. We thought that my mom had breast cancer beat...she went 20 years with no signs of it! And then it came back and finally beat her. Sometimes I don't think people take breast cancer seriously anymore because we hear about it so often, and that drives me nuts! We shouldn't have had to lose our moms!

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